So today one of my best friends hits me up and tells me she is down because one her friends offended her regarding her relationship... See I am the type of friend as much as I dislike the guy you are with I will not tell you because I want you to experience and learn for yourself....I mean I will tell you my opinion but its up to you if you choose to proceed with the relation ship or not... So I pasted the email from her SO CALLED FRIEND to the blog, the reply was from my bff saying "Tay I'm tired of all of this with Daniel" and then she replied below...Let me know your view on how you would give advice to your friend who knows damn well he his no good for her!!!....
"You can not make him grow up. You can not make him love you. You can not make him change his ways. He has to WANT TO and obviously he does not want to. You look at it as your "LONGEST RELATIONSHIP" where as other people like myself might look at it as the "Longest Waste of Time". One year of that so called relationship didn't mean squat because half of that ONE year he was in a some what committed relationship with someone else. to me and anyone else, this situation is a no brainer, that's why I believe you seek attention. If you KNOW how he is and you KNOW you can do better, why do you constantly come to your friends complaining about what Daniel did or said to hurt you. How long do you think people are going to keep coming to your aide?? As much as I love you and I wanna be there for you I must admit I am burnt out with you and all of your Daniel foolishness. I guess that's why I find your situation humorous. That may hurt your feelings to hear something like that but it shouldn't bother you cause you are obviously a gluten for emotional pain."
I'm still PIST about this email... Because Lauren my bff is so sweet and she is just learning how to love someone and she is so naive when it comes down to who her real friend are....
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- Sandra
- I am a 30 year old young lady currently not attending Florida Memorial University... A Junior majoring in Secondary English will be a first semester senior this spring... Im 5'1 brown skin short cut girl and just enjoy life for what it is...I live life with no regrets and ALWAYS to the FULLEST!!!!!! Jump on if your ready... hehehehehe....
6 comments:
I think that the friend could have given the email less harsh. We can get tired of hearing the same old stuff but to call it foolishness and humorous is a bit over the edge when you are dealing with a sensitive subject that the other person takes seriously.
But then again, the truth isnt always peaches and cream. I hope your BFF isnt too hurt over the email. Perhaps it was an eye opener for her.
So me being the friend who will be ther through anything you go through or "put" yourself through as the friend is doing at osme point I will tell you like it is...
And if she has had herself in a relationship like this for a year plus its time she get a wake up call maybe there were a few things she could have siad differently but idk I think I would have expressed some of those feelings the samw way...
Maybe you should try to talk to her... P.S We can't be naive and innocent forever Sandra
Well I thank you for your opinions...Like my blog says its up to her as to what she wants out of her life...If its a mistake she will learn on her own...she knows I have her back no matter what...Although I may not like it I have to be that friend that is hear to tell her my opinion but things cant go always how the friend wants it....Its hard to enjoy a relationship with ya friends all up in ya business.... yes she may need this to wake up but who has the rright to tell someone that they are wasting time or foolish...we all be a victim of this or will go thru it.....
Moody,
What is your definition of a friend? Friends are there for you whether they want to hear it or not. Friends don't judge, criticize, or belittle other friends. Friends are always there with opened ears and an opened heart. Everyone has been naive ATLEAST once before. We've all been "young and dumb". My question to you... Do your "friends" know that you feel this way about their love lives? And who do you run to when you're in the same perdicament?
Church.
Ok... so, I have soooooo been in this situation. Not as the rude and inconsiderate friend but the "naive and innocent"... as u all have labeled it.
Personally, I feel the email response sent to ur bff was downright rude and ridiculous to say the least. As her friend, this individual shouldnt think her relationship turmoil is HUMOROUS. WTF? Thats crazy... and disrespectful. How can you, as my so-called friend, get a kick out of me going through bullshit with a nigga I love?!? My advice: Tell that chick to kick rocks cause with friends like this... who the hell needs enemies (or bad boyfriends for that matter).
I have been given a whoooooole lot of advice about the relationship I am in... yet, and still, I do what I want because what your friend will realize ON HER OWN is this: NO ONE is involved in my relationship but me and dude. No matter what stories I tell my friends, no matter what I blog about, no matter what people see from the outside looking in... its not the same as being an active participant in MY relationship. Im all for people giving advice and CONSTRUCTIVE criticism but if a "friend" sent me this type of email I'll tell her to eat shit and die. :)
Hope this helped...lol
Yeah I think although the email was out of frustration and probably truth. As a friend she could have kept the insults to a minimum. I'm with you I say my piece 1 time and it's up to you to do what you want with the info. Take it or leave it. IF you don't take it and things turn out bad I won't throw it in your face I'll be there as a true friend.
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